As it’s Mother’s Day in the UK this weekend, let’s talk about something we mums are absolute champions at: looking after everyone else.
Seriously, we deserve medals. We make sure the kids are fed, watered, and relatively clean. We check in on friends, remember birthdays, and somehow keep our partners alive (because let’s be honest, if we didn’t, half of them would live off toast and forget how to book a doctor’s appointment).
And yet, when it comes to being kind to ourselves? Ha! We’re about as gentle as a boot camp instructor on caffeine.
Why Are We Like This?
We lift other women up like we’re handing out Olympic gold medals, but when it comes to our own achievements, we act like they don’t count. We’d never tell a friend, “Wow, you really failed today,” but we’ll say it to ourselves over something ridiculous, like forgetting to defrost the chicken.
And the overthinking? Oh, honey. It’s an extreme sport. My brain’s favourite phrase is “what if?”—and it’s usually a disaster movie.
- What if a lion eats my kid at the zoo?
- What if the school runs out of lunch and my child STARVES?
- What if I post a TikTok and someone makes fun of my hair, my teeth, or the way I say ‘literally’ too much?
- What if my boss sees my side hustle and calls me into HR?
Honestly, I spend most days playing NOT to lose instead of playing to win. Always on the defense, waiting for something to go wrong. Why?!
Flipping the Script
Lately, I’ve started switching my ‘what ifs’ to something a little more exciting:
- What if someone downloads my guide and makes £1,000 at home?
- What if my TikTok actually helps another mum feel less alone?
- What if this ACTUALLY works, and I get to travel the world, stress-free?
Wild idea, right? But here’s the thing—why not us? Why shouldn’t we have the flexibility, the success, the freedom we dream about?
So, let’s play to win. Let’s stop treating ourselves like an afterthought. Let’s take the risks, be kinder to ourselves, and give this whole “what if things go RIGHT” mindset a go.
What if I download the guide and I actually make money online? Click HERE to download the guide
What if I book a 1:1 call and I learn the right steps to put me on the right path? Click HERE to book a 1:1 call
What if I make enough money to leave my 9-5?
Interesting isn’t it?
Because what if this is the thing that changes everything for you? 😉
Let’s play to WIN!
If you need any further reads of why you are an amazing read a previous blog THERE ARE WAY WORSE MUMS THAN YOU here!
Hi Sarah – Mums (or Moms as we say in the US 🙂 ) Absolutely deserve a medal! you do so much more in an unselfish manner than can ever be mentioned in volumes of books. As I look at all the things that my mom and my wife did and do for my family, and if I am honest about the contributions made, I am in awe! Yes, you deserve a medal, a break, a nice meal and finally a huge and satisfying nap! Not only do you need to be kind to yourself but those around you need to be kind to you and allow you a little freedom. I like your reversal “what ifs.” Many of us play the What If game and if we do reverse the script as you suggest, mindsets might change, and success might be achieved a little quicker. Have a wonderful weekend!
Your comment absolutely made my day! 🥰 Mums/Moms really do so much behind the scenes, and it’s lovely to hear such appreciation from someone who truly sees it. Your wife and mom are lucky to have you recognising all they do! And yes, I’ll happily take that medal… along with the meal and the nap—sounds like the perfect treat! Have a lovely weekend x
Great insights. Everything begins with our mother, and her mother and her mother and so on. Maternal instinct resides in all of us, and if a man is sensitive enough, even he has those same instincts. Women also have instincts mostly attributed to men -courage, strength and fortitude. The Yin and the yang. May we all live long enough to create a balance between the two!
Very true. Balance is very important in all we do. Thank you so much for the comment Kate. Have a lovely week x
Love this! The “what if” spiral is so real—why is it so easy to believe in others but doubt ourselves? Flipping it to what if things actually go RIGHT is a total game-changer. This is the reminder we all need to be kinder to ourselves and take the leap. So, here’s to playing to win—because why not us?
Very good thoughts for mother’s Day! All about adopting a mindset shift! And those what if… yeah I know, anxiety, distress and the fears of our mothers are real and universal. Adopting a winner position is difficult but what if…
Let’s be thankful to our moms, and enjoy your day, this one is for you!
Martin
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Hey Sarah!
I can so relate to this! As moms, we lift everyone up but tear ourselves down over the smallest things. And the what if spiral? Yep, been there, turning minor worries into full-blown disaster movies! 😄
I love the shift from “playing not to lose” to “playing to win.” That change in mindset is huge, especially in business. What if things actually go right? What if success is just one step away?
Such a great reminder to bet on ourselves, loved this!
Meredith
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Thank you Meredith. I am so positive with everyone else, and the number 1 cheerleader- but for me- THE worst. Mindset is everything, especially in business and I’m so pleased this is changing for me. x
Sarah, first off Happy Mums/Mothers Day! I really enjoyed your views on flipping the script. This is something I think we don’t consider much when it comes to ourselves. Enjoy your well deserved day and wish you all the best!
Thank you so much Ken, I had a lovely day and felt very appreciated. Thank you
Sarah, This post really made me think about how often I put myself last while juggling everything—looking after my dad, my kids, my business, and still trying to stay healthy. I’ve been so focused on doing all the things that I barely notice when I’m running on empty. I’ve said things to myself I’d never say to anyone else—especially when something doesn’t go to plan. I love the idea of flipping the “what ifs”—I’ve started doing the same with my fitness journey and my TikTok shop challenge. Maybe it can go right… and maybe we are allowed to win too.
Maybe? not maybe we ARE allowed to win! We will do this and when we do, we WILL celebrate!!