“I’m The Lobster!”

I don’t know if you’ve seen the 2003 British romantic comedy film “Love Actually” staring too many people to list, it’s one of those films that everybody amazing is in. If not, you’ll need to watch this short YouTube Clip to understand the title of this blog post but if you know, YOU KNOW

This week, I had my own “I’m the lobster” moment with my daughter, and I can honestly say it made my day, week, and year (so far)

I did the daily power walk from the car to the school gate- The walk where you need to run, but you don’t have the right bra on, so you do a kind of runwalk thing. This runwalk manoeuvre could also be narrated by David Attenborough as I’m sure it looks quite bizarre! It isn’t an elegant way to travel but it’s needed on occasion, so my daughter doesn’t realise I am late, once again!  

On this day, my daughter saw me, ran to me, and gave me the BIGGEST hug like she was happy to see me. These days are getting less and less so I took advantage and matched her energy.

When I got to the car, I noticed she had a huge smile on her face, and she was bursting to tell me something- Here is how the conversation went….

“Did you have a good day?”

“Guess what.”


“You know I applied to be a class monitor.”


“Well guess what!”


“I got the position I wanted……”

Me trying to remember this conversation quickly but failing


Well, I’ve never been so happy for her, If I could have bagged the happiness she felt over being stamp monitor, I’d be a very rich lady. I of course matched her excitement, and we went for a milkshake to celebrate.  

*Stamp monitor means she helps the teacher stamp the other children’s books for the self-assessment*

This was a lovely moment that we shared but it also links to what I wanted to write about this week. My daughter was incredibly nervous in applying for this position in school and didn’t really want to step outside her comfort zone. But she did. And thank goodness she did.

I spent around a year looking into affiliate marketing, convincing myself it wasn’t for me. Why would anyone care about my journey? What do I have to offer? 

Thankfully, I caught myself on a good day and I decided to invest in myself. I know now that I deserve to strive for my dream life.  I have made some lovely friendships with lovely humas around the world and built up a really positive community. I would have missed out on all that if I didn’t just try. I bought a free book called “The Iceberg Effect by Dean Holland ( I just paid for P+P), there was no risk with buying a book. I then realised there was a world that could provide me with the freedom I was looking for. 

Do I like making videos all the time? Honestly no. The chimp often makes an appearance, telling me I need to sort my hair out, make a video once the spot on my forehead has gone, but by being defiant and ignoring it is when success has arrived. 

I will be printing this picture off and framing it!

0.42p isn’t going to get me a new car,  BUT this does prove that something is working. It does prove that trusting myself, being consistent, following the plan is doing something. This WILL work.  

The only person keeping you from not living your dream life IS YOU.  

As humans, we are given a finite amount of time on this Earth, yet a lot of us don’t actually do what we want to do. What makes you happy? What do you ACTUALLY want to do? My advice on my last blog was the encourage you to write your dreams in a list. Once you write them down, they become more powerful.

“Everybody dies, but not everybody lives.” William Wallace

Don’t let anyone else write your life. It’s up to you to determine the ending, so make it one you’ll never forget!

 What’s the worst that could happen?

11 thoughts on ““I’m The Lobster!”

  1. Hi Sarah,
    Isn’t it funny that we teach our kids the same things that we should be practicing ourselves? She did all in one day what took you a year to accomplish. I’m the same way… I will tell my kids to act or do something a certain way, and then turn around and not practice what I just preached to them. I’m so glad your daughter got the “stamp monitor” position. Good for her! Now if us parents will learn from our children, and not be so afraid to jump in and create videos, and put ourselves out there like they do… Great post! Also, congratulations on your first commission too! More WILL come in time. You are doing great! Keep up the excellent work!!
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  2. This was fantastic! I love the storytelling way you wrote this. Great blog post. Somehow, I feel like the older we get, the harder it is to believe that we all deserve to live a life of happiness doing something we love to do. I wish I believed in myself when I was younger and felt that if I wanted something…I would go after it, and to hell with all the naysayers. I cared too much about what others thought and let too many talk me out of something, saying it was stupid or that I would never do it. The peer pressure and influence people had over me was too much, and I never wanted to feel embarrassed for trying something and failing at it. The “I told you so’s” were too great a risk. Now? I don’t give a rat’s ass what anyone thinks, and I will do what I want, when I want, for as long as I want. It’s a shame I couldn’t have felt this way as a young woman, but better late than never, right?
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  3. Sarah,
    I’m so happy for your daughter and I could feel her excitement through your post. Yes a milkshake was certainly in order. As adults we don’t like to get out of our comfort zone and I am glad I did when I decided to start my affiliate marketing business. Good for you for doing the same.

  4. Sarah,

    It is important to take charge and write your own life. If you don’t some else will write it for you. This reminds me of the analogy of the tombstone. A tombstone has your birth date on it followed by a dash and then the day you passed from this world. The dash is your life and is the only thing you have control over. You cannot choose your birth date and you don’t have control of your end date.

    The question that is asked is what do you want the dash to say about you. Will it say you dreamed, you concurred and truly lived? Or will it say you where a member of the walking dead just wait for the dash to end?

    May people truly say you lived!

  5. Sarah, thanks for sharing such a heartwarming story about your daughter – those little moments of joy are what life’s all about, right? It’s awesome to see her stepping out of her comfort zone and owning it. And you’re doing the same with affiliate marketing! Taking that leap of faith and investing in yourself is huge, and it’s paying off. Your journey is inspiring, and it’s proof that with consistency and belief in yourself, anything is possible. Keep embracing those moments, chasing your dreams, and living life to the fullest – you’re writing your own incredible story. Thanks, Atif

  6. Hi Sarah!
    This is great! Thank you for sharing the mom moment with your daughter! ❤️❤️❤️these moments!
    The excitement of a child is the best! 🙂
    We should all learn from them and remind our inner child to come out! I’m hoping you went for an ice cream or shake for your fantastic win, too! Congratulations on your first commission! 🎉
    Celebrate it ALL! #win
    I bet she is one fantastic STAMP monitor, too! 🎉
    All the best!
    Milissa Neirotti

  7. Yes, I love it. I can feel the excitement from your daughter in the story, and it brings a smile to my face. Celebrating your daughter and yourself with a milkshake sounds just amazing. You should be so proud of the amazing human you are bringing up, and she is learning so much watching you take on your goals and do things that make you uncomfortable – truly inspiring!

  8. What a great lesson your daughter has learned. Wanting something, and being a bit nervous but went for it anyway and succeeded!! Along with the celebratory ice cream, will probably keep that moment alive for a long time; well into adulthood I imagine. She is following in her Mom’s footsteps.

    I never would have guessed you have any problems doing video but by being consistent, it will soon be a thing and you’ll be doing 2/3 a day. I’m sure.

    Loved the image that came to mind when you did the power walk. Very funny. You’re a natural.

    Congratulations on your win. You know what they say, See you at the top (smile)

  9. Every time I read your blog or watch your TikTok videos, I smile and chuckle. You have that great ability and skill. Your experiences are so real! I even read part of this post to my wife for her enjoyment. You did make a good decision with your risk to enter this business and I expect to watch you smash it as you progress. I have to tell you, if I lived on your side of the pond, we’d probably be great friends. 🙂 Take care!
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  10. I’m getting to the point that I seek out your blogs each week for my dose of encouragement! I resonate with them SO MUCH! I love the “I’m the Lobster,” analogy… completely aside from that being one of my favorite movies of ALL TIME… that aside I truly get what you’re saying. Having been reading your journey for the last several weeks now, I am so very excited and proud to see that you have received your first payoff from your efforts! I know 42p isn’t going to buy your next home, but it’s a start.. and it’s a damn good one! You continue to inspire me!

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