Everything You Want Is on the Other Side of Cringe

Let’s be real for a second: building confidence and believing in yourself isn’t about waking up one day and suddenly thinking, “I’m amazing and capable and everything I touch turns to gold.”
Nah. It’s about waking up, cringing at the thought of doing the thing… and doing it anyway.

Cringe is the cost of entry

Here’s the thing they don’t tell you about confidence: it doesn’t show up before you start. It shows up because you start. Confidence is something you build, brick by awkward brick. And yes, a big part of that is pushing through the cringe.

There are two sides to cringe:

1. The internal cringe — That uncomfortable, stomach-flipping feeling when you watch yourself back, read your own caption, or post your first video and immediately want to disappear into the floor.
   You think, “I sound ridiculous. This is awful. Who am I even trying to be?”
2. The imagined cringe — That voice in your head making up what other people might be saying:
   “She’s so awkward.”
   “Who does she think she is?”
   “Ugh, embarrassing.”

But let me tell you something: most people aren’t thinking those things. Most people are too busy cringing at their own stuff. And the few who might laugh? They won’t be laughing in two years when you’re still going and they’re still sitting on the sidelines.

Being bad is part of getting good

If you want to get good at something — anything — you’ve got to immerse yourself in it. You’ve got to allow yourself to be bad at it first.

That’s not failure. That’s the process.

Every person you admire started somewhere. No one shows up magically brilliant. They got better by doing. By showing up. By pressing publish. Again and again. And again.

I know this because I’m going through it right now.
My first TikTok? Oh wow. It was painfully awkward.
But I left it up. Because it’s proof. Proof I started. Proof I didn’t give up. And honestly? I’m so much better now than I was back then — and I’m still just getting started.

I still get nervous. I still cringe sometimes.
But the difference now is… I don’t let that stop me.

Whose life are you living?

Here’s a serious question — and I want you to really sit with it:
Whose life are you living?

Are you living yours — or the version you think is acceptable to others?

Because here’s the truth: you only get one shot at this life.
One.
There’s no redo. No practice round.
If something’s been sitting on your heart — a dream, a business, a side hustle, a podcast, a YouTube channel, a handmade product — whatever it is… go for it.

You are not past it.
You are not too old, too late, or too behind.
You can still do whatever you want. You just need the confidence to start — and the grit to keep going through the cringe.

I’ve got your back

If you’re ready to start your online business but don’t know where to begin, I’ve created a step-by-step guide for beginners that breaks it all down — no fluff, no overwhelm, just action.

And if you want someone to actually talk it through with, I offer 1:1 chats to help you get started in a way that works for your life, your schedule, and your goals.

Started a new channel? Launched a new page?
Message me — I want to hear about it. I’ll be your biggest cheerleader because I know how much courage it takes to put yourself out there.

Final thoughts: You can do this

If no one’s told you today:
You can do this.
You’re not weird for wanting more.
You’re not silly for trying.
You’re not alone for feeling awkward.

You’re brave. You’re capable.
And you’re just getting started.

So go. Do the thing. Cringe and all.
And remember — in two years, you’ll look back and smile, thinking,
“I’m so glad I didn’t wait.”

Ready to start?
👉 Grab my free beginner’s guide
👉 Book your 1:1 chat
👉 Or just send me a message — I’d love to hear your story and help you move forward.

You’ve got this. I believe in you.
Now it’s time for you to believe in you too. 💫